4 Reasons Why it’s OKAY to be 30 and Still Not Have a Ring on it!
1. You will have the rest of your life to be with “the one”.
A lifetime is a looooong time. I know your reading this probably thinking “…but Amanda, I can’t wait to make the perfect lunches for my kids while I kiss my impeccable man goodbye and send him off to work.” Okay, STOP right there. the PERFECT marriage/relationship does not exist. Nothing is perfect; relationships and marriages take work, lots of it. Don’t get me wrong, the right man for you will seem almost perfect but you will have to work on things. “But Amanda, all my friends seem so happy in their marriages…” Remember, INSTAGRAM posts are only highlights of everyone’s lives. What you don’t see is that amazingly good looking couple just got in a huge fight about finances the night before they posted that vacation photo. What I am trying to say is enjoy the single life while you can. Enjoy not having to check-in with anyone. Do YOU because once you are in a serious committed relationship/marriage, you can’t put yourself first anymore. It’s OKAY to be selfish for a while. Why not smile and embrace it!
2. No need to rush! Women can have babies in their 40’s now!
WOOP, WOOP! There are so many fertility options, it will probably make your head spin. You’re right, how do I know? I don’t know by experience; however, I have researched it and the oldest women to have given birth was age 67! I know I know, that is old and I know you want to live to see your kids graduate. LOL Relax, you have way more time than you think. Putting a timeline on your life is only going to stress you out and give you anxiety and pimples. No one wants pimples. Trust me, I use to do the same thing. I would hope by the time I was 27, I would have my first baby. HAH, God laughed at that plan, I am 30 and I couldn’t imagine having a kid right now and to be honest for the first time in my life, I DO NOT want a baby right now. You know why? Because I am happy. I am happy I can freely write this blog without pumping or putting a baby to sleep. I am happy I can do whatever/whenever I damn well please.
3. Weddings are expensive. Travel first!
If you come from a wealthy family, God Bless you…you may skip this one! 🙂 All other women who know they will def. have to dish out at least $20,000 or more for their wedding can relate. Now-a-days, a nice wedding is between $35,000 – $50,000 (well at least in Jersey it is) UMMMMMM what? I rather go to Hawaii for $10,000. LOL It lasts more than a day so I would probably get my money’s worth. Right? So if you’re getting closer to the big 3. 0. and still not settled down with anyone yet, don’t get upset or down, go travel the world! If you’re not tied down, you have no one and I mean NO ONE holding you back. If you have the money or a credit card (and are smart about paying your bills) go on that vacation you have been dreaming about.
4. After the age of 25, statistics show your chances of getting a divorce decrease. #winning
Yes, that’s right! It’s so sad but statistics show 60% of marriages for couples between the ages of 20 and 25 end in divorce. That’s more than half! 🙁 So ladies in your late 20’s/early 30’s statistics are forever in your favor. 😉 Divorces can get ugly so why rush a not so perfect relationship into a disastrous marriage. Take your time. The older you are, the wiser you become and therefore know what you want and what you deserve. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. You’re older self will thank you.
Enjoy your life! God Bless. I LOVE YOU ALL!